What The Hell's Wrong With You?
Do you ever get out of your head just long enough to metaphorically (or actually) look at yourself in the mirror and say "What the hell is the matter with you?" Yesterday, I spent eleven hours at Starbucks, working on my masters paper.
Today I've been at Starbucks for nearly four hours, and all I've accomplished to that end is to find a list of sources from when I first started a lit review...four years ago.
What else have I been doing?
Writing in my journal...software updates on a little used laptop, and watching "The Office" on Netflix.
I am full on pain body today.
Today, I am suffering.
Remember the words of Tony Robbins: Pain in life is inevitable. Suffering comes when a person feels powerless to change the situation causing the pain.
But I question why I am suffering...
Sure, I've got money challenges right now, work stress, living situation stress, away from family...sometimes, that's life.
There has to be something more, something deeper.
What if I actually enjoy suffering?
Doesn't make sense, does it? No sane, rational person would enjoy suffering.
Tapping into Eckhart Tolle's ideas on the ego, the picture becomes clear. The ego has one job...to survive. It will do anything it can in order to survive...as Eckhart says, sometimes even killing its host.
It seems that somewhere in my life, I began playing a victim role. I actually remember that going back to when I was three or four years old...I've had a LOT of time to perfect the role.
The thing is, I've let that role control my behavior and actions at times. That role helped me stay small for most of my life. If things are going good, let's do some self sabotage, so we can REALLY feel that victim role again!
Time and time again, I have been told that I get in my own way...but if I don't, the victim role will fall away and the ego would eventually die, and...
Ah! The light of consciousness!
The ego cannot withstand it!
This quote from Hands by Jewel popped into my head this morning: "...and not to worry 'cause worry is wasteful and useless in times like these."
Like Eckhart says, there are no problems, only situations that must be dealt with. The mind, courtesy of the ego turns those situations into problems.
The mind is such an amazing tool, but most of the time we don't use it...it uses us. Exposé sang Free Your Mind...the sentiment should be "free yourself." Your mind can fend for itself!
As the ramblings of getting out of this funk start to creep in, I take a look once again in the metaphoric mirror and say, "What the hell's wrong with you?"
The reflection smiles back and says, "Nothing. Why do you ask?"